The Merriam Webster Dictionary defines the term failure as "a lack of success". There are numerous varying meanings for the word failure such as, not reaching a measurable objective, an inability to perform, or giving way under pressure. The root core of the word failure is a feeling of not living up to the expectations of the person who is experiencing the "failure". I prescribe to a different definition of this word that so many people allow themselves to be labelled by. For me failure is best defined as "an opportunity to learn and grow". Failures can define a person in a positive or negative sense, but that is up to the person. Rather than allowing what others may perceive as a failure to define us, choose to use the experience as an opportunity to learn, grow, and succeed.
Learning from our failures i.e. mistakes, is a part of life's normal process in growing and becoming the person God created you to be. When we make a mistake, we gain an opportunity to figure out what went wrong, what we did that messed up, and gain additional knowledge so that mistake doesn't happen again. In my role as a teacher/coach the vast majority of student/athletes I have coached do not come onto the playing field having mastered every aspect of the sport they are embarking upon. My hope is the young person has a mindset of wanting to grow, which ultimately will traverse through many wins, losses, setbacks, and advances. It is essential that the student/athlete doesn't give up when things get tough, but instead they embrace the struggle as a viable part of the learning to succeed process.
The old expression, "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me" aptly fits in our conversation around growing through our mistakes. If we are fooled or tricked by someone once that is on them for tricking me. If it happens a second time then I obviously did not learn from my previous mistake and learning, which leads to growth, did not happen. I have to accept ownership for my lack of learning from my negative experience. To put this more in context for our discussion today, if I don't learn from my mistake and it happens again, that is the bedrock foundation of what we would label as a failure. As in any classroom or sport, making the mistake is not the issue, not realizing you made a mistake and thus not correcting your mistake is where true failure creeps into the equation. We fall down, we get up, we analyze why we fell down, and we take the corrective steps to learn and adopt new strategies that will keep us from falling down due to the previous reason for our fall.
I'm pretty sure most of us have heard of the "school of hard knocks". In essence life's bumps in the road equal the classroom of lessons learned and skills attained. Without education, there is no learning. Without learning there is no growth, and with no growth there is no progress. We stand still in our mistakes and if we persist in our mistakes we actually begin to lose traction and slide backwards, losing any positive momentum we may have experienced.
The Apostle Paul put it this way in this discussion regarding failing, getting back up, learning from mistakes, and then continuing to press forward, "I don't mean to say that I have already achieved these things or that I have already reached perfection. But I press on to possess that perfection for which Christ Jesus first possessed me. No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, I press on to reach the end of the race and receive the heavenly prize for which God, through Christ Jesus, is calling us." Philippians 3:12-14. I can almost hear Paul on the sidelines shouting out the same support for his "players" that He learned through the greatest "Coach" of all time, "Don't give up, Don't Quit, and Always Do Your Best!" Paul doesn't say things are perfect and obstacles are obsolete. Instead Paul's message to the Christians in Philippi was, I haven't learned it all and at times I get knocked down, but you can't keep me down because I am chasing after the perfection of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior. You will get knocked down and you may at times feel like a failure due to your circumstances or situation, but remember this, failure is temporary while you are learning from your mistakes. Progress and change occur when you learn from your mistakes, take corrective action, and then launch yourself right back in the life God purposed you to live!
Coach Carter